The only people for me are the mad
ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of
everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace
thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow Roman candles exploding like
spiders across the stars, and in the middle, you see the blue center-light pop,
and everybody goes ahh...
Jack Kerouac
This is the final installment in my
trilogy about Second Life (SL) that I’m writing as part of my first anniversary
celebration of blogging about SL. My first blog was a look back on
my first year inworld. The next was about how I
write my blogs. The third will take a
more forwarding looking view.
One interesting aspect of SL that I’ve
noticed about many residents is about their behaviors. First, how many do things in SL they would
never do in Real Life (RL)? Then, there
are those who do in SL what they do in RL but go over the top while they’re
doing it.
All of them are pushing the edges of
the envelope inworld as regards what they’re comfortable doing with
others. Myself, as I’ve reported in
recent blogs, I’ve been nude at several functions
and have been visiting BSDM clubs inworld. (Trust me, I haven’t the nerve to do any of
these in RL. Plus, Significant Other has
major input into my social life and acquaintances.)
While I’ve been inworld observing
these happenings, I’ve been wondering why do people do this? Act in a manner in a virtual world that they
wouldn’t in reality. I’ve come to a few
conclusions. (Warning this is an
unscientific survey and definitely reflects the author’s prejudices and
biases.)
First, I believe people act out
because of curiosity or a desire to experiment. What is it like? How do I feel? Is it fun?
Do I receive any satisfaction (whether emotional or physical) from this
activity?
Then, there’s the anonymity. No one knows who I am. There’s no come back to me.
Next up is the relative safety and
risk free aspects of whatever it is that I’m doing. There won’t be physical repercussions. Relationships won’t crater (at least they
shouldn’t). Unwanted pregnancies and
STD’s won’t occur. I don’t tire or
become injured when I overdue it.
Now, some may ask, what about me, why
do I push the edges of the envelope. My
two favorite excuses, er, I mean reasons, are professional curiosity and
anonymity. The former because my excuse
is I’m searching for stories for my readers.
(Don’t you feel guilty now?) The
latter because I don’t have to worry about my friends and family plastering
images of me all over the Internet.
So, what kinds of edgy behavior are
folks engaging in while inworld? Frankly, there’s a lot. Let’s just look at the highlights.
Relationships are one area where many
push the edges of the envelope. Some
have SL partners who are not their RL partners.
Sometimes the RL partners know, sometimes they don’t. (The last is definitely the edgiest.) The partners may act as romantic
partners. Some go so far as to have
children together. These partnerships
may opposite sex or same sex. I’ve met
many inworld who experiment with bi or gay relationships but are straight in
RL.
Then there’s the perennial favorite of
sexual activity. Cyber sex is for me, by
definition, pushing the edges of the envelope.
Somebody’s using all those pose balls lying around all over inworld. Going further, there’s group sex and
BDSM. I’ve heard rumors of residents
having in flagrante delicto in places they
shouldn’t. And, I can’t forget all the
strippers, pole dancers, and escorts who are out there. Not to mention all the shops selling sex
organs for avatars.
OK, enough with the sex, there’s
serious partying going on inworld just about all the time. Folks just go out on the dance floor and
dance and dance… Well, you get the idea.
Next, one of my favorite topics in SL,
exploring. Now, some may say how can SL
exploring be edgy. Just remember, this
is the guy who spent twenty-fours in
SL. Enough said.
Some behaviors being pushed to the
edge inworld are technical. Like my
friend, Glorf Bulmer, who I think has
built the tallest, free
standing tower in SL. Wagner James Au recently wrote of a giant avatar built in
mesh.
Another area where I’ve found
residents have pushed the edges of the envelope inworld is the area of
modeling. Some expend considerable
effort, not to mention money, on clothes, skins, body parts for their avatars, and
the list just goes on and on. Unlike
myself and my juvenile efforts to make myself presentable inworld, others take
their appearance very seriously. And,
they have the Flickr folios to prove it.
Finally, and this one is not as much fun to
write about, and that’s rude behavior inworld.
(And, I’m not talking about griefing.) Some people think that when they go inworld
they can just say whatever they want and do what they want. Two friends of mine, Glorf and Lindal Kidd, have recently
written about their own experiences.
So to the future, what does all this
mean for my readers and me? I want to
continue to push the edges of the envelope as I go forward. I’ll meet some of the participants in these
edgy behaviors, and try to either observe or participate myself. (I see trouble coming.) And, of course, I’ll report back to all my
readers what I find (and whatever trouble I get into).
Please come back and check in!
As always, I’m grateful to all for their
kindness and time in stopping to talk with a stranger who was passing through
their lives.
I welcome feedback from readers, please
either comment on my blog or e-mail me at webspelunker@gmail.com .
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7 comments:
Hee! You may be giving me too much credit, I'm afraid - I'm very pleased with my tower, but I have a feeling there are taller structures around; I'm almost sure there's a full-size replica of the Eiffel Tower somewhere in SL, just for starters!
However - it may not be setting any records, but I have tried to make the tower entertaining - in my own special way, of course.
As somebody with a physical disability (abet a minor one that is more embarissing than a hinderance to getting around.. for some people just acting like everyone else they meet is "pushing the envelope"
As somebody with a physical disability (abet a minor one that is more embarissing than a hinderance to getting around.. for some people just acting like everyone else they meet is "pushing the envelope"
As somebody with a physical disability (abet a minor one that is more embarissing than a hinderance to getting around.. for some people just acting like everyone else they meet is "pushing the envelope"
As somebody with a physical disability (abet a minor one that is more embarissing than a hinderance to getting around.. for some people just acting like everyone else they meet is "pushing the envelope"
Very true, SL has become a face to the world to many who are home bound or otherwise restricted in RL. You make a very good point about the varieties of behaviors inworld.
Eiffel is certainly taller, but Glorf's tower looks great. I wonder if you can jump down off it like you can do from Eiffel (have done it - SL only!)
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