Everyone
is a potential naked slave to you once you become a trainer.
Anne Rice
This
installment of Sex
and the Single Avatar in Second Life goes back to a subject that
I’ve blogged a lot about since my start in Second Life (SL), BDSM . My last story
visited a nude beach so I thought it was time to get back to people and their
practices inworld rather than place with this story.
Since I
first started visiting
with the BDSM community inworld, I’ve met with doms, dommes, and submissives
(“subs”). I’ve visited clubs and
other places where BDSM is practiced.
One of my goals has been to interview a dom or domme. Subs seem to like to talk. But for some reason, doms and dommes seem to
be somewhat more reticent. Well, after
several months of looking and a couple of false starts, I’m happy to report
that I’ve finally met a domme who was willing to be interviewed. (Actually, I met her while researching nudist
beaches! There is a method to my
madness.)
Dorina Slade is an inworld domme who rezzed into SL on May 3, 2007. Dorina like many noobies in SL quickly became
curious about what her avatar looked like without her clothes on and the rest,
as they say is history. She passed
through phases of being an escort and a kajira in a Gorean sim before moving onto BDSM.
Dorina only practices
BDSM in SL and as for Real Life, “…that’s another story…” as she says.
Le
Harem de Dorina is a SL group founded by Dorian and is not a place. She designed it as a sexy family where all
members could enjoy using and being used by one another, depending on the time
zones and the genders of the people online.
Dorina says one never knows how the game can run. Members ascend the group’s hierarchy by
serving well or go back down the way they came if they don’t behave. She
continues saying that this brings out a great sense of emulation and
gameplaying especially as Dorina describes herself as quite bad tempered and
may punish a sub who has served her well and reward another one who has gone
wild. Dorina would like to keep the
group small with really motivated subs, too many subs makes it hard to be
serious with all of them.
Dorina began as
a sub because she says she had a lot to learn first. She found a good Mistress and Master and was
“conveniently” instructed (sounds interesting).
As time went by, Dorina found herself more and more attracted to
domination, especially of men. She
practiced and became more daring and understood that this was what she
wanted. So, after a while, when she
tried to enter a BDSM sim as a sub, Dorina found it so boring that it became to
clear to her that she could not go back.
It was “domme or die” for Dorina.
As to why Dorina
became a paid domme, she says she needed money to buy clothes and stuff. The
easiest (and most pleasant!) way to earn Lindens was escorting. She found she was good at it, men were ready
to pay for usual services, and to overpay for being humiliated, beaten, and
being taken advantage of. It was easy,
funny, and she didn’t even have to undress or have sex with them.
Dorina’s
favorite practices involve using men.
Although as she puts it, “I never have sexy with sex.” She enjoys rear entry sex with them or
“obliging” them to play with each other.
In fact, she considers the latter to be a real treat as she then knows
that they are really, fully obedient.
Among her subs,
there are no real limits among the men. Some enjoy anal, some being slapped, others
serving as human urinals. There was one
fellow once Dorina recalls who was absolutely straight but after a while he was
one of the best fellatists she had ever seen and would ask the Harem Master for
sex. She considers him one of her
greatest victories!
I ask Dorina
what a typical session for her group is like and she says it all depends on the
sub, the moment, and her mood. They are
not typical and as sometimes there can be as many as three or four subs at the
same time, there can be many combinations.
There
are about ten subs in Le Harem de Dorina but only a few are used by her
frequently. She prefers to have a few
subs and to use them well and to be ready and able to respond to their needs. Dorina sometimes wonders who the real
dominant is as the subs just have to obey while she has to think it all
over.
I
inquire about how well the group is doing, is it growing? Dorina says she’d rather keep the group small
as too many subs make it hard to be serious with all. (Le Harem de Dorina does have an application
which does ask applicants fairly direct questions about their preferences in
case anyone is interested.)
My
last question to Dorina is about her thoughts about the state of BDSM in SL
today. She replies that there are too
many subs don’t know what BDSM really means and too many doms and dommes (often
guys with a female avatar) are just there for some quick sex.
I
want to thank Dorina not only for this interview and her frank and candid
answers. She maintains her own blog which while not current does give a fun account of her early days
in SL.
Below,
I’ve included a link to a picture of Dorina and some BDSM sites that I’ve
visited inworld. My pictures do not do
any of the sites justice, please visit them if you can!
As
always, I’m grateful to all for their kindness and time in stopping to talk
with a stranger who was passing through their lives.
I welcome feedback from
readers, please either comment on my blog or
e-mail me at webspelunker@gmail.com
.
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